“I create my own experience. Whatever experience I am having, I am creating it, therefore I can change it.” – Own Your Awesome affirmation cards
I had a reminder earlier that in this constantly changing world, the only thing we have control over is ourselves and how we deal with things. This concept can be equally overwhelming and incredibly empowering, depending on how you view it.
On the one hand, accepting and believing that we have control over our lives by way of our own thoughts and actions places a HUGE pile of responsibility on ourselves – which some of us might not be ready for – or think we even want.
On the other hand, knowing that our thoughts and actions hold so much power can free us from being a victim of outside forces and viewing our lives as a product of the world around us.
It can be so easy to assume that things happen TO us rather than know that we are happening to the world!
I’m a firm believer in the idea that like creates like. As a pretty sensitive person, I’ve always been strongly affected by the situations I’m in and the people I’m around. When I’m around people who exude a negative or depressed energy, I start to feel negative or depressed. When I’m around happy people, I feel happy. When I’m surrounded by creativity, well, you get the picture!
That’s proof right there that I create my own experience. Knowing that I’m affected by my environment so strongly, it’s up to me to control what my environment is like.
I dreamt of a life where I make my own rules, where I am surrounded by creativity, joy, love and peace.
And I’ve made big changes in my life to change my environment to achieve that dream. Everything from ending toxic relationships, leaving a cushy full-time job to start my own business and even completely moving out of Los Angeles!
It hasn’t been easy, but I wow, it has been WORTH IT. Every single moment of insecurity, fear of awkward conversations and forcing myself to jump into the unknown.
All of it was worth it.
You might be thinking, “well, we can’t always control our environment.” And yes, that is 100% true. We can’t always choose who and what we are around.
In those moments, it’s up to us to focus our thoughts to align around our values and intentions. That sounds nice, doesn’t it? But what does that even mean?
It means remembering that life that you envision and what you stand for. When I’m in a difficult situation, I try to remember what it is I’m working for. How can I adjust my attitude, my words, my actions in the current moment to align with that goal?
This idea comes up a lot when I teach yoga classes. When we get to a challenging pose, I often ask “where is your mind going?” Just that simple question is a reminder to notice what we are creating in the moment. Are we deciding “this is too hard” and contemplating releasing out of the pose early? Are we hating the teacher for making us hold the pose so long? Or are we rallying behind the reason we showed up on the mat in the first place and focusing on our breath and gratitude for feeling alive?
This is one small example of the choice we make every second of every day in our lives.
What experience are you going to create today, in this moment?
Smile at everyone you see today. Notice the feeling you get. Notice if they smile back.